Now that you are aware of what your triggers are. The next step is to go deep within to determine what the underline cause is so you can begin working on healing. Doing your work and coming into union with yourself is the biggest part of the twin flame journey. More than coming into your union with your counterpart. You see…doing the work frees you from being stuck.
As you discover the cause of your triggers it is the most liberating feeling in the world. You come to the understanding as to which moment in your life caused this trigger to appear in your twin flame connection. You begin to see why the trigger is occurring. Below I will give a detailed example of the main trigger that I had in my own personal connection:
Why does my DM ghost me when I give him so much of my time and energy?
Reason: You have a codependency when it comes to your DM. You want to control the situation by being attached to outcomes, timelines, and have expectations. You want the connection so bad that you get so focused on what he is doing, what he is thinking, and who he is with. You become stuck, frustrated, and want to give up on the twin flame journey
Understanding: You come to the realization that this reason comes from fear and insecurity. Fear and insecurity brings the feelings of doubt, not feeling good enough, and the thought that if you are always in his space & energy that will keep him from forgetting about you.
Work: You begin to work on overcoming the fear and insecurity. You begin to understand that it stems from how you feel about yourself. You think those things about yourself and believe the narrative the ego mind is telling you through them. Which is why you chase and DM runs. You realize that through accepting the separation as it is it shows both of you what needs to be worked on.
Did you notice I said both of you? You both are a mirror so you both have to work on it - you reflect what you like and don’t like in each other. The twin flame journey has its ups and downs - which is why twin flame connections are rare.
You now can make the free will decision on how you can do your work and heal. Your twin flame will also need to make the free will decision to do their own work and healing. As you ascend out of your triggering energy, you get into a place of inner peace trusting that what is meant for you will never pass you by.
You begin the journey of union with self.